Chapter 5:
After the incident of hitting her palm, my daughter seemed to become more restrained, but only slightly.
She held a strong hatred towards me and clung to my husband when he came home, saying, "Daddy, mommy hit me! Mommy is a bad person! Daddy, divorce her, we don't want her!" I was shocked.
How did such a young child learn about "divorce"? My husband scolded her with a stern face, "You hurt mommy, and you have the nerve to complain?" My daughter cried and went to find her grandmother; since then, she stuck to her grandmother and became distant from me and my husband.
Not long after, when our daughter turned four, we sent her to kindergarten.
Just on the first day, the teacher at the kindergarten complained to me that she had physically attacked other children.
After that, because of my daughter's fighting incidents, I cannot count how many times I ran to the kindergarten to apologize to the teacher and the parents.
Sometimes I would cry out of frustration.
I always followed the advice of parenting experts to teach her well, but she never listens.
We had never resorted to violence before; the last time I hit her was out of anger.
Why does my daughter, at such a young age, resort to violence? If it were just fighting, it would be bad enough, but she also likes to use knives, and I don't know where she learned it from.
When she was two, she almost poked my mother-in-law's eyes with chopsticks, and at three, she almost stabbed me.
Now, she has become more skilled at using knives, sticks, and other objects to attack others.
I am truly worried that one day she will harm someone, or even kill someone.
We have locked away all the knives and strictly monitored her access to cartoons and books in order to prevent her from learning violence.
The whole family took turns disciplining her, including spanking her hands and buttocks, and finally, she stopped using knives.
One day, Zhou Yuan and her son came to visit my house.
The two children were playing together while Zhou Yuan and I were chatting in the living room.
Suddenly, Zhou Yuan's son ran out of the room, crying while running.
Zhou Yuan and I quickly comforted the child.
My daughter called out "Mommy" twice, but before I had a chance to respond, she screamed angrily and rushed into the kitchen, wielding a kitchen knife and throwing it at the other child! If it weren't for Zhou Yuan's timely intervention, there would have been bloodshed right then and there! "Muyin!
"I screamed, 'What are you doing?!' I grabbed her and, for the first time, smacked her bottom hard.
She cried loudly and struggled.
Zhou Yuan left with her son, her face pale.
When my husband and mother-in-law returned, my daughter complained to them that I had hit her, and as a result, my husband grabbed her and beat her mercilessly.
'I'll kill you both sooner or later!' she cried.
After the beating, my daughter calmed down a lot.
I started to doubt the expert's words, realizing that setting an example through words and actions does not work; only violence can make a child understand.
If she doesn't experience fear from being dominated by violence, how can she understand that others will be hurt if she uses violence against them? Zhou Yuan no longer allows her child to play with my daughter, and the other children in the community are also afraid.
My daughter feels particularly lonely, which makes me feel sorry for her.
I take her out to play every day, hoping she will be positive and cheerful.
I tell her fairy tales and stories of heroes, hoping she will learn from them.
She listens attentively and behaves well.
After a period of calm, one day my daughter came home and asked me to buy her a stationery box.
She took me to a high-end stationery store next to her elementary school and pointed to one of the boxes, saying she wanted to buy it.
When I saw the price tag, it was over a thousand dollars.
It was ridiculous, a stationery box costing over a thousand dollars, a total rip-off! I asked her why she wanted it, and she said Fang Fang has one, and she wants one too.
I told my daughter, 'You already have two stationery boxes, we're not buying it.' I have never mistreated her before, so I didn't agree with her wanting to buy another one with two already in her possession.
My daughter cried and threw a tantrum, but in the end, I took her away.
The next day, the teacher called me and said my daughter had taken someone else's stationery box and pushed them downstairs! Thankfully, the staircase wasn't high, and the child wasn't seriously hurt.
When I rushed to the kindergarten, my legs were weak.
My daughter adamantly denied pushing anyone.
She may not have understood due to her young age, but the surveillance footage in the corridor clearly showed her pushing the person.
Yet, my daughter, even after seeing the footage, still refused to admit it.
When we got home, we punished my daughter and told her not to steal things or hurt people.
My mother-in-law suggested buying the stationery box, but both my husband and I disagreed.
If we give in to her every demand, what will happen when she grows up? Soon after, my daughter came home, proudly showing off her new stationery box.
I asked her where she got it, and she said someone gave it to her.
At that moment, I thought that since children don't understand the value, they might give stationery boxes as gifts, but adults would probably be angry, so I told her to return it.
She flatly refused.
Two days later, the mother of a classmate called, and only then did I find out that my daughter had used the classmate's pocket money to buy the stationery box.
The problem was, the classmate's pocket money wasn't enough, and my daughter encouraged him to steal money.
The classmate actually stole his grandmother's money, gathering enough to buy the stationery box for her.
My daughter is exquisitely beautiful, inheriting her father's handsome looks.
At such a young age, she has the potential to become a beauty.
People who meet her for the first time really like her, and many boys in the kindergarten want to play with her.
It's unimaginable that at such a young age, my daughter would exploit others for personal gain.
I asked my daughter, but she denied it.
I was simply exhausted.
Memories flooded my mind, and I started to doubt if there are inherently bad people in this world, people who cannot be taught no matter what.
My husband, mother-in-law, and I all have gentle personalities.
Our family is harmonious.
We never use foul language or fight.
We always try to meet our child's needs and give her selfless love, even though she frustrates me, and I rarely resort to violence."
The places we take our children to are very formal and positive.
Whenever the adults at home have time, they will play with her and not neglect her.
We are not a wealthy family, but we prioritize her material needs.
We buy whatever is reasonable and appropriate, regardless of the cost.
We also ensure that her education is not neglected and teach her about right and wrong.
We often share stories of good examples and encourage her to study.
However, my daughter has still turned out like this.
Selfishness, greed, and plunder...
as if these bad habits were ingrained in her from the start.
It's like how she was so determined to take in all my nutrients while she was still in my womb, and now she wants to take from others.
She scares me.